Learn Dialectical Behavior Therapy skills with quirky queers and cultural renegades.

Learn Dialectical Behavior Therapy skills with quirky queers and cultural renegades

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Do any of these sound like you?

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We get it! We want to help you to find a more effective way!

If you’re a quirky queer, or cultural renegade — like us — we know it can be really hard to know whether a particular therapist or skills group will be appropriate for you, especially when we live queer lives. When we looked for a community, we couldn’t find exactly what we are looking for, so … we created it!

We created our DBT courses because we wanted to build a community that wasn’t interested in:

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Reinforcing harmful social norms around sexuality, gender, relationships and sex work.

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Becoming more “normal”

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Inflexibly applying skills

What they're saying:

I have found ways to cope and been encouraged to use them as and when I’m up for it, long term. I feel like I can work with my traits that I used to think of as negative/ want to avoid.
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The skills classes gave me a lot of useable tools and skills with an emphasis on progressive learning and adapting things to different situations I was in to meet my needs.
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WHAT'S INCLUDED IN THE COURSE?

LIVE CLASSES EACH WEEK

Live classes on the first and third Wednesday of the month.

Learning materials

Workbooks, videos, and podcasts to support your learning.

COMMUNITY

A group of other quirky queers and cultural renegades & their closest people to learn alongside you.

CHAT WITH THE COMMUNITY

A slack community where you can ask questions between sessions and share how things are working for you.

SKILLS 

Skills that give you more choices and control in your life.

WHAT'S INCLUDED IN THE COURSE?

TWO LESSONS EACH MONTH

Live classes on the first and third Wednesday of the month.

Learning materials

Workbooks, videos, and podcasts to support your learning.

COMMUNITY

A group of other quirky queers and cultural renegades & their closest people to learn alongside you.

CHAT WITH THE COMMUNITY

A slack community where you can ask questions between sessions and share how things are working for you.

RELATIONSHIP TOOLS

Skills that give you more choices and control in your life.

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Why should I learn DBT skills?

I was really surprised to feel more comfortable than I have in any kind of therapy setting I’ve ever been in. I’ve been able to be really open and bring my full self to the skills group and I feel really very grateful for that.
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READY to invest in changing your relationships with your emotions and the people around you?

Up next …

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The DISTRESS TOLERANCE COURSE

The distress tolerance course will teach you how to cope with intense emotions and increase your ability to survive a crisis. It helps you to be confident that you have the skills to survive intense emotions, ground yourself and deal with the difficult parts of life effectively.

Coming soon …

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THE INTERPERSONAL EFFECTIVENESS COURSE

The interpersonal effectiveness course will help you to navigate interpersonal relationships and work out how to balance your long term objectives with the situation at hand. Starts January 2022.

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THE EMOTION REGULATION COURSE

In the emotion regulation course you’ll learn how to work through challenging emotions and act upon them effectively. It is all about building a life where your emotions give you accurate and helpful information, and you learn to trust yourself. 

FAQS

Because they work. We have learned these skills and found them incredibly useful in our own lives and seen how they have improved the lives of people we have taught them to. We also know the evidence stacks up across different cultures, racial groups, age ranges, sexualities and class backgrounds. We know that learning DBT skills reduces distress, increases enjoyment of life and relationship satisfaction. Because we believe these skills to be particularly powerful and liberatory when taught by peers outside of institutions. We want these skills to be accessible to folks that find therapy hard to access – especially people who are trans, neurodiverse, sex workers and other quirky queers and cultural renegades.

We mean this expansively and we will not be policing identities. Anyone that is LGBTQ, a sex worker/performer and/or consensually non-monogamous certainly fits within our community. Many of us are neurodiverse, and this often links to our experiences of queerness in other parts of our life. We particularly welcome and center neurodiverse folks! 

We will do our best to make accommodations when we know what folks need. We are disabled folks ourselves and have experience of asking for accommodations to be made and we know that can be very difficult. We have worked to make the course as accessible as possible, and would love to know what you need to make it work for you.  

No. This is a place for learning skills. We recognize how many of us live with trauma and aim to operate in a trauma informed way. We have some guidelines about topics we avoid during our time together to keep the focus on learning skills. We think it is essential to have chances to work with and process trauma, and believe that many of the skills we will learn together are helpful in stabilizing mental health, which may make  working with trauma in other spaces more effective. 

This course is all about learning how to survive intense emotions and reduce emotional activation rapidly. You will learn to work out when you need to treat your emotion as the emergency, and a toolkit of emotional first aid tools.

This course teaches participants how to recognise, understand and regulate emotions so that they have more choices about how to manage day to day stressors and distressing events.

This course is about empowering us to handle interpersonal situations more effectively. This course invites you to reflect on the myths that hold you back in relationships and teaches you skills to be more assertive. We will talk about how to prepare for difficult conversations by creating scripts and anticipating pushback. These flexible and scientifically supported dialectical behavior therapy skills will help you to have clearer communication and more fulfilling relationships.

They are stand alone modules, but they do work best when used together. Afterall, it can be hard to have effective relationships if your emotions get in the way, and ineffective relationships can make it hard to manage emotions! They are connected, and so are the modules that we teach.