Self Consent is the radical act of tuning in to & showing up for your needs, desires, limits and boundaries. 

Self Consent is the radical act of tuning in to & showing up for your needs, desires, limits and boundaries. 

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Do any of these sound like you?

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We know this struggle. We want to help you with it.

If you’re a quirky queer, or cultural renegade — like us — we know it can be really hard to know whether a particular therapist or skills group will be appropriate for you, especially when we live queer lives. When we looked for a community, we couldn’t find exactly what we are looking for, so … we created it!

We created our self-consent course because we wanted to build a community that wasn’t interested in:

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Reinforcing harmful social norms including the myth that it is weak to ask for help or have needs.

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Ignoring or overriding emotions, boundaries and signals from our bodies

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Carrying on doing the same thing and expecting the result to be different

What they're saying:

Sophia helped me to reframe events in my life so I could maintain healthier and happier relationships. I got better at identifying and expressing my needs, which made everything so much better.
Clara

WHAT'S INCLUDED IN THE COURSE?

LIVE CLASSES EACH WEEK

Live classes on the first and third Wednesday of the month.

Learning materials

Workbooks, videos, and podcasts to support your learning.

COMMUNITY

A group of other quirky queers and cultural renegades & their closest people to learn alongside you.

CHAT WITH THE COMMUNITY

A slack community where you can ask questions between sessions and share how things are working for you.

SKILLS 

Skills that give you more choices and control in your life.

WHAT'S INCLUDED IN THE COURSE?

TWO LESSONS EACH MONTH

Live classes on the first and third Wednesday of the month.

Learning materials

Workbooks, videos, and podcasts to support your learning.

COMMUNITY

A group of other quirky queers and cultural renegades & their closest people to learn alongside you.

CHAT WITH THE COMMUNITY

A slack community where you can ask questions between sessions and share how things are working for you.

RELATIONSHIP TOOLS

Skills that give you more choices and control in your life.

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Why should I work on self consent?

READY to invest in changing your relationships with yourself?

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We mean this expansively and we will not be policing identities. Anyone that is LGBTQ, a sex worker/performer and/or consensually non-monogamous certainly fits within our community. Many of us are neurodiverse, and this often links to our experiences of queerness in other parts of our life. We particularly welcome and center neurodiverse folks! 

We will do our best to make accommodations when we know what folks need. We are disabled folks ourselves and have experience of asking for accommodations to be made and we know that can be very difficult. We have worked to make the course as accessible as possible, and would love to know what you need to make it work for you.  

No. This is a place for learning skills. We recognize how many of us live with trauma and aim to operate in a trauma informed way. We have some guidelines about topics we avoid during our time together to keep the focus on learning skills. We think it is essential to have chances to work with and process trauma, and believe that many of the skills we will learn together are helpful in stabilizing mental health, which may make  working with trauma in other spaces more effective. 

A way of centering a consensual relationship with yourself in your life. Recognising your desires, limits and boundaries and attending to them like they matter. Making choices based on what you value, want and need, rather than subjugating yourself and focusing primarily on the requests and demands placed upon you by others (or social/familial norms).